Is your feedback a bump in the dark night?

Is your feedback a bump in the dark night?

Is your feedback a bump

It was late at night, her book bathing the room in a blue glow.  A knock sounds out, loudly.  She screams and hears footsteps run away, quickly into the night.
 

No, this isn’t the start of some side gig writing novels.  It’s my real-life Sunday night adventure.

 

The Potential Thief

I was reading, enjoying some rare quiet.  The little one was in bed and my husband was on an overnight trip.  Our porch lights were off, but the drapes open so someone could see me sitting alone in the dim light.

When the knock came, I yelled something less than intelligent (something like OMG or WTH), my heart going crazy in my chest.  The unknown knocker ran off into the dark night with me in a panic.

I immediately flipped on all the lights, checked the porch and then shut all the drapes.  I double-checked the bolts on all the doors and I called the police.

I thought it was someone casing homes over the holiday weekend to see if we were really home.  The police responded immediately, circling the block a few minutes later.

After my heart rate decreased a few notches, I attempted to get some rest.  However, I realized after a few minutes that something was gnawing at me.
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Develop Better Ideas than Tony Stark in 7 Steps

Develop Better Ideas than Tony Stark in 7 Steps

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Ideas are cheap.  Before we begin investing time and resources moving forward with one, it’s free to change or refine it.  Potential is endless in the world of ideas.

While opportunities abound, not all ideas are good ones.  Just ask Tony Stark.  In the latest Avengers movie, one of his ideas nearly causes the Earth’s destruction.  Oops.

Most of our ideas don’t risk the world as we know it.  However, we could jeopardize a project, customer relationship, or business.

An effective vetting process allows us to identify and mitigate risks during ideation, before they become reality in execution.  Let’s evaluate Tony’s vetting process for the Ultron program to determine what we can do differently in our own ideation.
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Managing People Frustrations (Part III)

Managing People Frustrations (Part III)

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This is the last of a three-part series regarding the most common advice I provide in response to people frustrations.  In all cases, I have found that people frustrations can be resolved by focusing on Communication and Compassion.

The first challenge was focused on email, and I offered the “1-2-Meet” approach to improving response rates and engagement.

The next challenge was about reconciling differences of opinion, using the “Find the AND” approach.

What if the “1-2-Meet” or “Find the AND” approaches don’t seem to fit and we’re still frustrated? I have one last piece of people advice.  If we find ourselves getting frustrated, we just need to remember one universal truth…

 

It’s not about you

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Managing People Frustrations (Part II)

Managing People Frustrations (Part II)

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Recently, I shared that the most common types of advice I’m asked to provide tend to focus on people frustrations.  And that the root cause, and therefore any solutions, center around Communication and Compassion.

The first challenge was focused on email, and I offered the “1-2-Meet” approach to improving response rates and engagement.

The next challenge is about reconciling differences of opinion.  What can we do when we’re convinced of the right way forward, or the right answer, and someone else is convinced otherwise?

 

Find the AND

Let’s start from the premise that we all want to wake up every day, knowing we add value to an organization or effort.

To know we add value, we have to understand our role and its relationship to the mission of the team, organization or company.

In our attempts to find, realize, or maximize our value, sometimes we may forget that everyone around us is doing the same thing.  Each of us can get so caught up in “me” that the potential awesomeness of “we” is lost. 
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Happy Mother’s Day

Happy Mother’s Day

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Happy Mother’s Day to all the mothers in my tribe and around the world.  May you spend it doing something you enjoy, with people you love.

I have been lucky to be surrounded by the men in my life today, particularly the littlest man, with good weather, good food, and even a good nap.  Sleep is the mom’s gift that can never be overrated.

We may be back to real life tomorrow, but today – I hope you celebrate you.