What is your foundation? Ideally, we all have one. It could be a relationship, our home, our work environment…anything that represents a stable something we can rely on when other things go awry.
My foundation is traditionally something tied to the home. Having lived all over, my home is wherever my family is. As long as that foundation is solid, then I have been known to instigate all sorts of chaotic change in my life…knowing I have a stable point of focus on the horizon.
It’s our foundation that allows us each to reach past a point of comfort. To try new things. To take personal and professional risks.
But what if that foundation gets rocked? Right in the middle of chaotic change in the rest of your life? How do you get back to center?
It’s the last line in Iron Man 3. Not to spoil it for anyone who has not yet watched, but it’s the moment when Tony Stark sheds the suit and accepts that he is all that the Iron Man represents. As a man. As a superhero.
Last week, I asked the questions “What is your superpower? What is your kryptonite?” I wanted to wait until after I had the chance to watch the latest Iron Man movie to share with you why – when it comes to superheroes – I feel an affinity with Tony Stark’s journey.
We are barely into spring (at least in New England) and it’s already summer movie season. I am unbelievably excited. My calendar has been booked and the babysitter is on notice pretty much every week all summer. If you can’t tell, I take (a good) summer movie season very seriously.
For most of my life, I have been surrounded by comic books and their mythology. My brother is an avid fan and writes his own comics in his free time. Yes, I’m a supportive sister, but I genuinely like a good story.
Recently, based on a recommendation at a conference, I read The Male Factor by Shaunti Feldhahn. I’m skeptical enough (about most things in life) to question books that claim to have the secret sauce to much of anything, but I thought I’d give it a try. I was surprised to find I enjoyed it.
Of particular interest to me was a section on men’s ability to compartmentalize. According to Shaunti’s research, men have a very well-developed ability to segregate their thinking between work and home. Or to focus on one thing to the exclusion of all others.
Having experienced the frustration of trying to talk to my husband when he’s deeply focused on something, I’ll have to admit that the description resonated.